10 Rules Every Long-Term Couple MUST Follow to Keep the Romance Alive

“The 10 rules that every long-term couple MUST follow in the bedroom to keep the romance alive and avoid someone straying (including fantasizing about other people)” was an article that originally published by The Daily Mail (UK)

– Introduction by Bianca London


As anyone in a long-term relationship knows only too well, things between the sheets can often become non-existent.

But according to one relationship expert, there’s ten essential rules that every long-term couple should follow in the bedroom to keep the romance alive and prevent one partner straying. Continued

The Path to Parenthood

This article was originally published by Scottish magazine and website, Scotland 4 Kids


Dr Jane Goldberg waited until her late forties before she experienced motherhood.
Here she shares a very honest account of why her difficult journey there was worth the wait…

Like most of the events in my life, waiting until I was 47 to become a mother was neither a deliberate, nor particularly well-crafted decision. Rather, it evolved from a series of circumstances combined with choices I made without being able to predict the consequences. Continued

Seminar Reviews

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Seminar presented by Jane G. Goldberg Ph.D., April 26, 2002
Reviewed by Adam Shechter

“In the introductory portion of her seminar, Jane Goldberg reviewed basic brain neurology. The developing infant’s neurons fire randomly, more than during any other life period, reactively forming patterns in synchronicity with reinforcing parental attention. I cannot help but think that her lecture accomplished a return to this original consciousness. The traditional neural firing patterns, i.e., perceptions of human emotional culture, as currently and historically seated, were tastefully and brilliantly un- and re-connected.

Jane Goldberg gave narrative shape and defining language to an unprecedented configurative region of the psychoanalytic unconscious. In a seamless articulation, the intimacy of the personal word and the incisiveness of the academic word were unified in a singular nurturing expression.

Scaling this complex tower of words, Goldberg shared the psychic experience of her daughter Molly, who once categorized the world of creatures between those who bite and those who lick, cogently reifying the elusive defense of splitting through the actuality of her child. Goldberg recounted a vacation with Molly, during which they lovingly interacted with an esoteric small creature. After traveling back to their hotel with this small creature in the stroller, Molly plucked the creature from its throne and proceeded to crush the life from it with her foot. Again Goldberg vivified the humanness of murder in the purity of the child; this action was framed within the enraging difficulties of separation.

After centuries of no love, and then centuries of idealized romantic love, we are now in a position to look more closely at the honest constituents of our actual loving. We toured the biblical story of Cain, who was understood to have committed the first murder and founded human civilization. At the same time we were reminded that Freud deemed the man who first flung an insult at his enemy, instead of a spear, to be the founder of civilization. The statistics of domestic violence were reviewed, illuminating that safety from destructive hate is still not found in the mythical loving home. Humans do hate one another, and in place of the spear, we can constructively and verbally express this “destructive” emotion to those who are significant in our lives. Goldberg pointed out that the wish to alter our significant others, in whatever way, is essentially a metaphorical murder. She also unraveled a multitude of emotional and physiological truths behind the romantic façade, e.g., falling in love is governed by a time-limited biochemical reality. Moving through these salient tunnels of normally unspoken thought and feeling, Goldberg constructed a full matrix of the various libidinal and social ties humans engage, and the role of aggression in those ties. Not dissimilar to the patient on the couch, Goldberg was theoretician at the podium, articulating a phylogenetic form of Saying Everything.

The fundamental presence of hate in loving relationships was, I gather, the thematic essence of her lecture. Goldberg delicately offered us a peek behind what might be called a false ideology of love, cleansing shame from hate, that all too misunderstood and powerful human emotion.

Though such difficult and “unpleasant” ground was traversed, the mood in the seminar room was not morbid, nor somber, but in fact loving! Her words resonated with a deep hum across the emotional spectrum and allowed for joyous release through laughter. As separation was a central theme of her talk, admittedly, the conclusion was painful. Though now, an emotion, which I have additional neural connections to better understand. I look forward as I believe many others do, to her return.”

The Science and Efficacy of APeX Oxygenated Water

“It sounds like a scene from a science fiction novel—an army of tiny weaponised robots travelling around a human body, hunting down malignant tumours and destroying them from within. But research in Nature Communications today from the University of California Davis Cancer Centre shows the prospect of that being a realistic scenario may not be far off.”

But the article is wrong. The day is no longer “not far off.” The day has arrived. The product already exists wherein “Hunter-Killer Nano-Robots” perform a search and destroy mission within our bodies. And the killer cells not only rout out cancer cells, but all pathogenic material in the cellular neighborhoods of the toxic materials. The product that delivers this promise is called APeX. Continued

Dying Should Be a Selfish Endeavor

This article originally appeared on HuffingtonPost.com



My patient Rona is dying. She has been my psychoanalytic patient for 30 years and has struggled against her cancer for 15 years. She has had Stage 4 cancer for seven years. She fought the good fight, a valiant fight, and truly, for many years, it had seemed as though she were indefatigable. She has been telling me that she is dying for a few months now, and in spite of her being bone-thin, I still saw and heard life energy in her. Her voice and spirit were strong in spite of her frail body. Although she needed help to make it up the two flights of stairs to my office, still she plowed through it, and never missed a session. Continued

Testimonials for Jane G. Goldberg Ph.D.’s Holistic Therapies

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“Your imagination takes you far from the Flatiron District as you nestle into your wicker chair to await our treatment at La Casa Day Spa. The sultry lounge, modeled after the famed Puerto Rican retreat, is designed with lush foliage, white brick walls and bamboo accents. The tropical backdrop helps set the stage for a unique experience that is enhanced by access to the city’s first and only salt sauna and oxygen steam bath.
La Casa’s philosophy centers around holistic healing and promotes detoxification for better health. Founded and directed by author, teacher and practicing psychoanalyst Jane G. Goldberg, Ph.D. the spa’s vast menu of services includes renewal facials, nurturing massages, colonics and vibrational and frequency therapies as well as floatation. Enter a private, dimly lit chamber, take a cleansing shower and slip into the filtration tub that’s brimming with 10 inches of water mixed with 800 pounds of Epson salts. Aside from attaining a peaceful state, buoyancy offers other benefits, such as regulating blood pressure, promoting circulation and balancing the skin’s pH.”

SPINAL PAIN RELIEVED BY THE METATRON“I have recently experienced vast amounts of back pain in my lower spine area. I was lucky to use Jane Goldberg’s Metatron system to  relieve me from some of my back pain. In seconds, my back felt lighter and less stiff in the hurt area. This machine was able to diagnose my pain and had me feeling better instantly. Thank you for your help, Jane!”
-Lilly Perlstein

“I have been suffering from stomach pain for over a year. I have tried many treatments with very limited success and a lot of frustration. I was referred to Dr. Jane Goldberg for a session with the Metatron. Going into the appointment I had no idea what to expect but I left in awe of how much that machine was able to tell me about my health. It scans your body and pinpoints the pathogens and/or imbalances. It was painless and remarkably accurate. Now that I know the cause of my pain I can move forward with the appropriate treatment. I found Jane to be patient and very knowledgeable on the human body. I will definitely go see her again.”
-Rosa U.

“This is how the story goes: After limping for about a week because my foot just started hurting me out of nowhere and doctor’s recommendation to put ice and give it a rest, my co-worker recommended me to try out pulse-magnetic therapy at La Casa Day Spa. Tell you honestly I was a bit skeptical but I was desperate to walk normal again so I decided to give it a try. After Dr. Jane applied some wires to my foot and heel for 20 minutes, she asked me to test my foot after that.  I was amazed to see that I could step on my foot without any problems. I could walk normally again! I will definitely come back for few more therapies to make sure the pain will not come back!”
-Olga Contreras

“About three weeks ago, I had injured myself quite a bit while playing recreational softball. By the end of the second inning, I had pulled each groin muscle and severely scraped both my right arm and right leg. That night and the next day, the muscle pain was so excruciating that I could hardly walk. The scraped areas where the skin had been removed created a stinging, burning sensation that pulsated up and down both my arm and leg.
Dr. Jane Goldberg, Owner of La Casa Day Spa suggested I try energy healing immediately, as the pain got progressively worse as the day went on. I used the Cemtech device and the results were unbelievable. After 15 minutes of holding a tiny diode in the same spot, centrally located between my groin and knee, I stood up and was able to effortlessly and painlessly walk around again. It was like night and day. I repeated the process once more and the relief this energy healing provided lasted the rest of day and into night. I used it two more times the following day and shortly thereafter, the pain had significantly lessened and my body seemed to have healed the skin wounds much faster as well.
It was astonishing to feel how much pain was instantly reduced after one use of the Cemtech. As I was holding the diode on my body for the first time, I will admit I was skeptical as I have never used healing technology like this before and was in so much pain that I didn’t think anything would be able to make the pain go away (aside from time). Cemtech and energy healing is an amazing process and one that more people should utilize as ingesting synthetic pain relievers does such harm to the body. I am happy to say I did not have to take one Advil while healing from this situation and one week later, I felt 100% better.”
-Andrew D.

“After an emotional roller coaster of dealing with all of life’s heavy tasks, stresses, and feats, I constantly suffer from migraines and headaches on a daily basis.  On a good day, I even tend to have a slight headache.  I am accustomed to popping at least two Tylenol a day to “cure” my painful headaches, however, I’m well aware that my liver is working way too hard to metabolize the Tylenol, and eventually the Tylenol’s long term usage will cause damage to my liver.  To be in pain short-term or long term? That is the question. I’ve always needed a short nap to recover from my migraine, but who honestly has time for a nap nowadays, especially in New York City where time is money.
I was a Pre-med student at the University of Texas, however, the thought of pursuing medicine was daunting to me since I’m not a huge believer in pharmaceutical drugs.  The idea of “curing” a health problem with a pill always seemed too easy instead of diligently examining the lifestyle more closely and fully diagnosing the real problems at stake- such as diet, sleep patterns, etc.  I decided that this career path wasn’t for me, so I moved to New York to pursue my artistic passions instead.
Fortunately, I met an amazingly inspiring and all-knowing woman, Dr. Jane Goldberg, who introduced an alternative, healthier lifestyle for me.  At first, I was a skeptic, like most people would probably be when first thrown into a different dimension of an innovative medical practice. I informed Jane of my terrible migraines that I was experiencing, and she insisted that I try the Cem Tech, a Russian handheld, therapy instrument which communicates directly with the cells in the body using millimeter wave technique. I figured that I had absolutely nothing to lose, and everything to gain. Furthermore, the woman has been accurate ever since I’ve met her; I would never accuse her of being wrong now since she’s always right on the money. This woman is a prime example of this modern type of healing technology’s success and results. I’ve never met a more energetic, lively, and intelligent woman at her age-65-yet she has the spirit and vigor of a 25 year old.
After 20 minutes of using the CEM tech, my migraine was miraculously gone. The pain was completely nonexistent. I’ve been using the CEM tech on a regular basis, and my migraines have dissipated. I hope to keep using the CEM tech, but I have a positive feeling that I’ll be migraine free soon. I’m a firm believer now in the Cem Tech.  I’d recommend it to anyone who has doubts of any kind.”
-Kimberly Gifford

“I went to a few colonic places in NY. But I stayed with one where I found the staff to be the most knowledgeable of any of the places I went to. La Casa’s colonics were highly instrumental in saving my colon and promoting my health. The owner of La Casa is a Ph.D. psychoanalyst, and has specialized in working with cancer patients who conceptualize that their cancer has psychosomatic components. My colon therapist actually cured herself TWICE of cancer. Those people really know what they are doing, and have a wealth of therapies available nowhere else.
I have had really serious colitis for many years. I was in the hospital with fever that was close to 105. When I got out I was determined to keep my whole colon, in spite of the recommendations by various physicians for surgery. I began a program of eating healthier, meditation, and colon cleansing through colonics.
If you have any health issues, if you are in need of colon cleansing (who isn’t?), if you want a spring cleaning of your colon – then get to La Casa Day Spa as soon as your feet will get you there.”
-Kelly G.

“I highly recommend La Casa over ANY other spa in NYC. Having colonic treatment is a real positive experience at LaCasa Day Spa. Colonics is the best insurance for a long life – and at La Casa it is pleasant and healing, and makes you want to come back more often. The people who own and manage the place – Dr. Jane Goldberg and Gregg Lalley – are fantastic.  Dr. Goldberg uses her vast and accurate medical/scientific knowledge to create a healing center for the body, mind and soul. The staff is truly dedicated, patient and kind, and the place is welcoming. Gregg makes each experience a personal and pleasurable one. LaCasa creates a natural relaxation that makes you want to come back for more. This is the only spa that has a genuine personal touch with its only goal being to provide a theraputic haven in the hum of life. 5 Stars for sure!”
-Sara S.

“This place saved me from a long term illness that no doctor could fix! Thank you so much Dr. Jane for being such an angel through a rough period of my life and giving me true detox advice on what works! I feel like a new person and will never go anywhere else for coloix or pulse therapy. You have made a new intro to my life and I will always be very grateful to you and your beautiful spa!”
-Can S.

“This is going to be a little outside of the box as far as spas go, but really awesome! I had something done that I didn’t even know existed. I was diagnosed with a knee problem (patello femoral) two years ago and had been experiencing pain ever since. My knee cap is not properly aligned and I have a difficult time keeping my knee bent for long periods of time. I’m 23 and active; exercising is one of my past-times. Having been to physical therapy and practicing the recommended exercises, I had seen only modest recovery. I was having a difficult time sleeping because of the pain. Jane Goldberg told me about the Cem Tech and gave me a treatment. I was naturally a little skeptical. I didn’t notice anything while the machine was on, and I forgot about it after I left her spa. However, that night was the first night I was able to sleep without ANY knee pain. Miracle. Worth a try for any pain/discomfort/bodily affliction you might be struggling with.”
-Claire F.

“I had the good fortune to be given a gift certificate to La Casa. And I spent the most enjoyable day there I have had in months. From the moment I walked in, I knew the place was special. The décor made the front room (very spacious) seem like I was outside – in the tropics I suppose (as I understand the mother spa is in the Puerto Rican rain forest). I had come for a float and a colonic. The float was an experience like nothing I have had before. I floated atop water in a room that was the size of a walk-in closet. I was peaceful and energized all at the same time. I came out feeling utterly revitalized – mind clear as a bell.
The owner of the spa, Dr. Jane Goldberg, says she tries to float every week – and attributes how fantastic she feels (and believe me – she LOOKS great – at 64, she looks 50) – in part to the anti-aging effect of the anti-gravity phenomenon of the float room. And by the way, she spent about a half hour with me after my therapies, just chatting – gave me a free demo of a pulsed magnetic machine – which lightened my load so much that I felt I might waft away into the stratosphere. Then – onward ho to the colonic. Well – can you say a colonic is lovely? This one was quite lovely. Therapist seemed to know instinctively exactly what my body wanted in terms of in-flow and out-flow – gently massaged my legs and abdomen – made me feel like Queen for a Day. Want to feel like Queen for a Day? Go to La Casa Day Spa. Rush over to La Casa Day Spa.”
-Zipi G.

“La Casa Day Spa shouldn’t even be called a day spa. It is so much more. It is a true healing center with true healing therapies. I went in unable to even walk without limping – I couldn’t bend my leg at my knee at all. I met the owner – Jane Goldberg – and she told me – with absolute conviction – no doubt at all in her voice – that she could help me – and that she could help me quickly. She put me on 2 machines that seemed very Star-Trekish  – she said one was a Russian device (called the Cem Tech) -and explained how far ahead of us the Russians are in doing energetic medicine. The other machine was bigger and apparently used magnetic energy (called the pulsed magnetic machine).
After both treatments she made me walk around – and voila – no pain, I was walking bending my knee. Truly – nothing short of miraculous. She sent me out with a little disc that she told me to wear – and then told me to come back the next day to get it revitalized. I did all of the above – and – I have to say – I have never had an experience like this before. A painful inflammation in my knee – gone in a poof. The treatments took altogether 30 minutes. I am good as new. Really  – I don’t understand it – but La Casa Day Spa is my new home. Also – the ambiance is quite wonderful. You do not know you are in NYC while you’re there. The sounds, scents, plants, furniture – all designed to give you a feeling of being in a tropical garden – and you do. Best healing experience I have had since I moved to NY from Israel.”
-Muli G.

“Today I had an phenomenal experience at La Casa Spa in New York with Dr. Goldberg.  I scheduled an appointment for the Magnetic Pulse Therapy and I feel wonderful! I believe the technologies that she is offering at La Casa Spa surpass conventional therapies, deliver rapid results on a cellular level and allow for profound changes to take place.
I experienced physical shock and trauma at a very early age and have spent several years in physical therapy to remove the imprint from cellular memory.  As the tissue is deeply scarred in many ares of my system, it is challenging to get down to the root and release the anchors that are holding it in place.
To being with, she handed me a  paddle like device called Onnetsu which sent far infra-red deep into the tissues. While I could hold it is some areas without any discomfort at all, in the areas where I had old injuries, breaks, tears, sprains etc. I could only hold it for a few seconds.  My conscious awareness was flooded with a full range of temperature sensations from lukewarm to intense heat with just a shifting of this paddle over the surface of my skin.
One area in particular I experienced a 20% reduction in the size and overall area of a bony cyst. The change took place in less than 20 minutes of rubbing the device over the top and lifting it off, repeating and holding it for as long as possible with each pass. The shape of my hand has changed and I have greater flexibility in it already.
Next I experienced the magnetic pulse portion of the visit. It felt like I was sitting on a pulsing drum. Later she wrapped what looked like a long extension cord around my hips and turned up the pulse meter to the point where my system became overtaxed. Turning down the impulse brought a sense of calm and greater balance overall. I also noticed a greater range of motion at the end of this process.
What happened next was amazing!  In her infinite wisdom, Dr. Goldberg brought out a little hand held device called Cem Tech and told me to hold the two discs in any area that I felt would benefit from some extra attention.  I placed one disc at the base of my spine and the other on a very tight thigh muscle.  In less than a minute, the muscles that previously had reached their threshold with the magnetic pulse therapy, dropped their long held defensive holding pattern, softened and within five minutes my entire belly region relaxed.
Within the next five minutes thrill bumps ran up and down my spine and spread out across my back. My heart and the muscles in my chest wall relaxed. I felt an old familiar “fearful feeling” suddenly leave my belly and a shift took place throughout my system. In place of the fearful feelings came a rush of warmth and joy.
Then she brought out a headband with crystals for me to experience. More sensations of warmth and calmness spread from head to toe. More open feelings of joy in the body and peace in the mind.
Normally being in a busy place like the city is overwhelming to me and I tend to avoid crowded  areas. Today I was able to cope with ease when I walked  through the chaos of the city streets back to Grand Central. I was present in a more relaxed body, able to take in far more information without feeling overloaded.
The Cem Tech portion of the experience lasted 10 minutes and according to Dr. Goldberg that was just a “sample” of what this hand held device can do. I am really looking forward to my next session of Magnetic Pulse Therapy, Onnetsu followed up by an even larger sample of the Cem Tech at La Casa!”
-Susan Freeland

“For the last five years, I have had serious joint problems. Working out at the gym was making me physically sick. I would feel a constant discomfort in my joints as well as sudden sharp pains whenever I was doing certain movements. My muscles would feel tight, stiff and would hurt. I attributed all that to a Lyme vaccine I got around 5 years ago. Shortly after, the physical agony started. It affected my knees, my hips, my elbows and fingers. I was frustrated and felt beat down because sport was always an important part of my life. I couldn’t exercise the way I used to anymore. It all changed after the first pulsed magnetic treatment. The results were absolutely DRAMATIC. After the first treatment I went to the gym and I was able to stay on the elliptic cardio machine for 45 minutes instead of the 20 minutes I could barely master before. The morning after was absolutely amazing! I had no stiffness in my joints or muscles like I used to have. The change was so overwhelming that I called Jane immediately afterwards and asked for a second treatment! I wanted more of the good stuff! At this point I’ve had around 5 treatments and I have regained my health to about 95%.
Another absolutely miraculous experience I had with the pulsed magnetic machine concerns my menstrual migraines. Usually they are severe to a degree that I am unable to move or stand. Often they induce vomiting. Sugar, tea, coffee, and meat make the headache worse. A couple of days ago, it was that time of the month again. I felt the beginning of a slight headache. I went immediately to Jane to have a magnetic session done. I did 15 minutes at different sides of my head. After around half an hour after the headache was gone. The same afternoon I ate a handful of chocolates, drank a cup of coffee and had a liver pate’ as dinner – still no trace of the migraine. It was absolutely incredible. That sort of diet would have sent me vomiting my guts out at any other period. This time I stayed absolutely clear. I have to admit I understand only vaguely the science behind the magnetic machine. I have not researched it to the same degree I researched other alternative medicine protocols. all I know is that it works AMAZINGLY. Thank you Jane for introducing me to this magical device!”
-Pola Planski

“Dr. Jane Goldberg introduced me to a healing system that transcended the multiple pill or treatment methods that we are exposed to in commercial medicine today.  In fact, it identified and produced corrections in a body that hid its weakness in a tiny place in my heart, spleen and eyes. Dr. Goldberg did corrections using her holistic approach and 30% to 100%  healing occurred. The next day my vision improved 30%, the pain in my side was 60% relieved and my anxiety levels reduced 100%. By the way I hobbled into her office with a severe gout attack in my left foot, the normal turn around for gout was 4 to 5 days.  The next day it was 70 % gone. Thank you Dr. Goldberg for pioneering into the wonderful world of integrative alternatives.”

“I want to thank the staff for the wonderful services provided at La Casa Day Spa.  Gregg, Jane, and the rest of the staff made my visit thoroughly enjoyable.  Most importantly, I want you to know that the Magnetic Pulse Therapy I received at La Casa for my lower back pain was fantastic. I’ve suffered from chronic lower back pain for most of my adult life, and the pain is annoying at best, and debilitating at worst.  It is amazing that you have a painless way of treatment this kind of pain.  I am happy to report that my back pain was completely gone after one 20-minute treatment (that alone is near-miraculous) and now, two months later, I am still relatively pain-free. It still comes back on occasion, but not at all like how it was before. I will certainly make an appointment for another treatment.”
-Ron Brown

“I am a 60-year female who has been living for the last 11 years with what western medicine has labeled as an incurable cancer. Thanks to the help of the Metatron, which Dr. Goldberg introduced to me, my life which had felt very grim, is getting better and better. The Metatron scan the body through frequencies, diagnoses whatever maladies it finds, and then treats the various conditions. As an example, it found that I had a UTI infection, which, indeed, I had had symptoms of. With one correction done with the machine, and then using a remedy that Dr. Goldberg made with the machine, and gave me to take him, the UTI was thankfully gone in a day. In addition, I have suffered from intense pains caused by the deterioration of an over-irradiated part of my body; these are now more bearable and improving. For instance, I could not lift my leg to touch my toes, and now can do it with ease. I recommend using the Metatron for all heath regimes. I have weekly appointments using it, and I consider these sessions to be invaluable to my living now a normal life, and relatively pain-free.”



From Symbiosis to Separation: Seeing and Touching Pt 2

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I have heard from mothers, both biological and adoptive, about the feeling of deep connection with their infant children through eye contact. The profundity of the eye contact between mother and infant is one reason why adoption agencies prefer that birth mothers not see their child. They know that when the child gazes up into his mother’s eyes, the mother will recognize their bond, and it will be more difficult for her to let go of her child.


‘The Really Real Reality Group Therapy Show’ Testimonials

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Letter to Dr. Goldberg

Dr. Goldberg,

I’m a therapist and I’m passionate about psychodynamic theory.  I had not heard of Modern Psychoanalysis before your show and I would love to continue to grow by watching the show unfold in its remaining episodes.

I work at an intensive outpatient group for eating disorders in St. Louis, MO.  The name of the agency is McCallum Place.  Thus, I do a lot of group work as well and find it very engaging/challenging. I’ve been incorporating bits and pieces of what I’ve learned from watching you practice.  Things like joining…”What am I doing to drive you out of the group room week after week?”, attending to the contact function of the ego, and pointing out and encouraging the verbalization of expression of eros/thanatos.

Watching you manage Barbara has been most helpful.  “I guess we can conclude that either you continually find yourself in groups of hostile people, or that you are complicit in doing something that draws hostility towards you.”  There are a large number of individuals with borderline personality organizations in my groups.  Your interactions with Barbara gave me better language for helping them recognize (with less narcissistic injury) how they are complicit in bringing about the very rejections and abandonment that cause them so much pain.

In other words, although I lack advanced training, I know I have improved my practice from watching you.  And for that I am both energized and grateful. Perhaps in the future I will consider a relocation to New York in order to pursue training at CMPS.

Let me know if you find a way I could access episodes beyond number 20. I also look forward to reading your book, “The Dark Side of Love”, and Spotnitz’s seminal work on the treatment of schizophrenia.

– John Rapp, LMSW

The Most Intriguing Thing
“I love it. I hate it. Its a train-wreck. I have so many opinions. This is the most intriguing thing I’ve seen in forever. I actually woke out of a half-sleep at 1:30 am and stared at this until the very last minute. Is this what a group therapy looks like? Wow. I hope you post a schedule. I’m going to be waiting for the next one…” – AmericanCyber Girl

The Importance of the Inner Self
“One thing I came away with is everyone in the group had some sort of external loss. Their whole since of being something other than themselves. The answer to a full person is turning to your inner self. Once you come be at peace with yourself, love your own self, happy with who you are, then your at peace, in love, and happy with the world. ‘Seek not abroad, turn back into thyself, for in the inner person dwells the Truth.’ – St. Augustine” – Yo1Dude1Man

Good job, Dr. Goldberg!
“Fabulous! Brave people. Good job Dr. Goldberg teaching the group members what its all about. You may have your hands full preventing the group from murdering Barbara!” – BinkeyBike

More Than A Scent: Essential Oils Aid The Immune System

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If you do some research into the Royal English Archives, you’ll come across an interesting little tidbit. It’s a recipe for “thieves’ oils.” So the story goes: In the 17th century, when all of Europe was in the thrust of the Black Plague, a small band of marauding thieves seemed immune to the disease. They would enter the homes of Black Plague victims and have no fear of touching the bodies as they searched for jewelry and money. The King demanded to know their secret. Continued

The Innate Genius of Baby Brains

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The idea that your baby is a genius is a neurological phenomenon. Renowned child educator Maria Montessori has speculated that if our adult ability is compared with the child’s, we would need 60 years of hard work to accomplish what he achieves in just three. When a child masters turning on and off a light switch, his brain has expended more energy than the most complicated computer that we have on earth. When a child says her first word at the age of nine months, he has mastered a developmental advance that represents millions of evolutionary years in the making. Practically everything your child does in his first two years — every sound, every movement, every mental connection that he makes — places his brain capacity at genius operating level. Continued

Book Reviews

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“The interactions between mind-body dynamics and health are complex and unclear, but increasingly research evidence points to significant clinical relevancy for this association. Goldberg presents a compelling argument for reevaluating the traditional medical model of the disease process, refocusing on the relationship of mind-body interactions as a fundamental component of disease, and suggesting that this relationship is more encompassing than the traditional psychosomatic models suggest… This thesis is well developed and organized, and the text is well written, readable, and comprehensible to students and general readers as well as professionals. The author, a practicing psychoanalyst who has written widely in the field, makes original and insightful contributions to the dialogue on the mind/body interaction and its influence on the disease process. The conceptual framework suggested is a useful contribution to the field. Valuable notes.”
—R. L. Jones, Choice

“Thoroughly documented and researched, Deceits of the Mind is also a multifaceted presentation of the dynamic of disease, and most importantly, explicit approaches to presentation and healing of both physical and psychological disorders. It is most refreshing to have this very find addition to the field of holistic healing, written in such a clear and engaging manner. To me the book is invaluable. It will also be a must read for patients and their friends and family.”
Richard Rivner, M.D., Medical Director, Fryer Research Center, New York

“Dr. Goldberg has written a truly original and insightful book, destined, I feel, to become a classic in the field. Her exploration of the human psyche as it relates particularly to the health of the physical body makes for absolutely enlightened and riveting reading!”
Ruth Sackman, president, Foundation for Advancement in Cancer Therapy, Ltd. (FACT)

“No writer has done more than Jane Goldberg to further exploration of the largely uncharted territory at the border of mind and body. In Deceits of the Mind she throws brilliant light into this area, and discovers original sytheses of the insights of medical scientists with those of the psychoanalytic theorists. Dr. Goldberg’s thinking is original, penetrating, and adventurous without being reckless; she has much to teach both lay people and professionals–of several disciplines. Her writing is of a clarity and vivacity that will enlighten and delight her lay readership and will help analysts to see more clearly what they themselves do and know and think.”
Phyllis Meadow, Ph.D., editor, Journal of Modern Psychoanalysis



“I was told fifteen months ago that I was beyond anything that could be done for me, at a very prominent teaching hospital. Metastasized breast cancer to the liver, lymph and bones. Now, here I am fifteen months later, pain-free and almost cancer-free and leading a totally normal life again. NO M.D., NO chemotherapy, NO radiation, NO surgery.
Radiation Hormesis—the natural radiation found in stones created by GOD, is one of my secrets to success. If you have cancer or MS or arthritis or…. I HIGHLY recommend you invest in this book, Because People Are Dying.
Well, only if you want to get well of course…”
Kathleen Wacholtz

“This book gives the objective report on the radiation we have come to fear. God put it all around us. We need to avail ourselves of it in the way it was created for us. In Rocks. This book stands alone but it stands tall. Enlightening!”
Mrs. Smith

Despite a few minor errors of scientific information, the bottom line of this book acquaints the reader about the true relationships between dose levels of ionizing radiation (from nuclear energy plants or bombs), and the absolute safety of all past releases of small radiation effluents from nuclear plants as constructed and regulated in the USA.
This is very important for the survival of this nation, because the so-called green energy sources touted so much will not sustain our economy and the health of our population and environment.
While much of the public is being propagandized about the imagined dangers of nuclear plants (which do not contaminate nor release carbon dioxide), in the meantime and long into the future, our trees and earth will be destroyed by the digging up and surface mining of coal and the spilling of oil, which will continue to be needed as long as nuclear energy is being held up and not supported by us through government programs and is over-regulated more than necessary for safety. It has long been known that the availability of concentrated energy sources for economic and human health of nations is perfectly correlated and causative with the health of nations and their inhabitants. See my own writings documenting these facts.”
Allen Brodsky

“This book is an enlightening, illuminating eye-opener to what I had always considered to be one of the most dangerous elements on the face of the earth. And in the wrong hands, indeed it is, but in the hands of those who respect nature, radiation can the most powerful healing energy on the planet.
This book is the fascinating story of how God led Jay Guiterrez into the invisible world of high frequency EMF’s or what is typically referred to as radiation hormesis. Do a search on radiation hormesis and be prepared to be blown away by the hundreds if not thousands of studies that have been done on this subject. Do a Google search on radon health mines and then ask yourself: ‘Why does the EPA tell us that radon causes lung cancer?’ It’s a hoax, a virtual reality to keep us in the dark, like mushrooms.
After Fukushima, I too became caught up in all the evils of nuclear power but in doing so, I lost my perspective on what is natural and beneficial and what is unnatural and corrupted by man. High frequency electromagnetic energies are the most powerful yet most neglected of all natural energy sources given to us by the Creator to maintain good health and to facilitate healing.
Most mineral springs are so efficaciously healing because of the presence of radon gas, which is generated when water comes into contact with uranium deep in the earth. The emissions of radon gas from the earth are a tremendous contributor to sustaining life on the planet but this phenomena has been buried by academia, government and big industry in the same way that they are now attempting to demonize the sun as being a major cause of cancer. (It’s the toxins in our body from big pharma and farma that are activated by solar rays that cause cancer). Academia, government and big industry want to keep us focused on delusions, deceptions, distortions and distractions because these four ‘D’s keep us living in fear, which in turn allows them to more effectively manage and control the masses.
Think about it: a great worldwide victory for evil has taken place in that virtually all of mankind now views the most powerful naturally occurring electromagnetic frequencies as being the most dangerous to life. Are they really the most dangerous? Yes, absolutely, but only when corrupted by man! They can also be the most powerful for healing when used appropriately as our Creator intended them to be used.
If someone you know has a life-threatening disease—or any disease for that matter—or if you just want more energy, this book will lead you to hope and to a cure. The problem is that most people wait until they are at the precipice of death before they turn away from this hellish system we call modern medicine. Jay has created a team of health care coaches and products that can help you.”
Gary Greenfield



A remarkably well-written book—a MUST for everyone’s library. It is a book about all of us, and on how to understand and manage love—this most important aspect of each of our lives. It is a more than worthy successor to such classics as Erich Fromm’s The Art of Loving, Thomas Harris’s I’m OK, You’re OK and M. Scott Peck’s The Road Less Traveled. If you should have the even the slightest reason to do so, I would strongly urge you to read this book!”
William Antonio Boyle

“For me this book helped me see beyond the Hollywood vision of relationships. It gave me a framework for understanding them as they really are: lots of hard work and occasional pain.”
H. Henson

“Jane Goldberg is a Freudian through-and-through, and so has a tendency to say that such-and-such is ‘always’ caused by this, or ‘always’ a sign of that. But she’s a fun Freudian, going through the tales of Oedipus and Narcissus with a surprisingly relevant take, and skillfully folding in references to Shakespeare and the like.
Her basic premise is that we don’t learn how to deal with hate and anger as children, being told instead that ‘hate is a four-letter word’ and ‘if you don’t have something nice to say…’ For a society that’s long recognized that children who don’t learn about love grow up to be adults who don’t know how to love, we’re very slow (which is why the book is still so relevant even though it was published in 1993) to see that the same is true about hate. Hate (rage, irritation, jealousy, aggression) is a powerful emotional that deserves recognition and respect. Goldberg argues compellingly for a change in our approach to anger ‘management.’
The prose is, unfortunately, highly repetitive, but you get used to it. It’s still a useful and intelligent read. I particularly recommend it for people who are still new to self-analysis.”
Julia Houston

“I read this book after reading Brigid Brophy’s Black Ship to Hell and was well rewarded with finding that Jane Goldberg had tackled the Eros/Thanatos connection with a bold re-estimation of the function of ‘negative’ emotions and how they are not only beneficial, but also necessary to our individual identity.
While another reviewer labels her as Freudian, it should be remembered that Freud is the father of modern psychology and his theories have initiated a deeper understanding of human nature. It could even be said that Freud and Jung (who originally studied under Freud) say the same thing, just in a different way. Erik Erikson, who is popular among many is also ‘Freudian’ and devotedly so.
What I liked most about The Dark Side of Love was that the author provides concrete examples and explanations without over-generalizing the concepts and ideas into aphorisms, and even debunks some of the aphorisms used by therapists to manipulate their patients.
The author’s ‘evolutionary’ description of the psyche and her commitment to the individual self is progressive when compared to those beliefs and ‘truths’ that attempt to subjugate the individual and pressure surrender to “the good of the many” or expound mystical self-annihilation under religious tenets.
All-in-all, I would recommend this book to anyone who is genuinely interested in self-improvement, and is looking to evolve beyond the ordinary. Insightful and refreshingly bold.”

“This book is so enlightening and insightful, everyone should read it. There are pieces of advice one would never have thought of on their own. The author narrates wonderfully—she illustrates concepts with stories of herself and her patients, and explains scientific terms and concepts so it’s easily understood by someone lacking a background in psychology. While she asserts her opinion, she lets the reader make his/her own conclusions and cites many studies enabling the reader to do further research if he/she wishes to know more. I don’t want to put it down.”
Adrienne E. Thiery



“This is a neat book that I refer to from time to time. There are great ‘inspirations’ to make your spa treatments at home. To breathe, cleanse your body, skin brush etc. The book gives you an overview of alternative healing methods, most don’t require a lot of effort and you can pick and choose what you like.
Why 4 instead of 5 stars? I would have wanted to see more explanations. For example, there is an interesting recipe — baked papaya w fruit filling — and it calls for kuzu. Not knowing what it is, I wish she had an index of unfamiliar foods and methods in the back. An internet search found that kuzu is a root vegetable and is used as a thickener. There are more confusions but you get over them because the ideas are great, and each time I skim the book I do something else. It is not a slick book, its style is a little hippy dippy, it doesn’t try to sell you vitamins and other things. It is a sincere book urging you to heal yourself and find a place of calm and beauty.
I recommend this this book.”
M. ReadersAreLeaders

Brain Cells: How to Preserve Them


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The brain is not too different from the rest of your body. It needs to be well-nourished. All animals except humans know this instinctively; because the head is elevated whenever an animal moves, sleep is the best time to feed an animal’s brain the blood they need for brain nourishment. An animal is always in a prone position during sleep, and its head falls lower than the rest of its body. Continued

Why I Decided to Enter a Beauty Pageant at the Age of 68

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In early 2014, I made a most bizarre decision for myself. I committed to participating as a contestant in a pageant: the Miss Senior New Jersey Pageant.

Miss Senior New Jersey is unlike its mother pageant, Miss America, in that there is no financial reward for winning. It does not promise, and then not distribute, most of the money that is claimed to be available (as was revealed by John Oliver’s recent, funny and sad, exposé of the Miss America contest). And unlike its forerunner, Miss Senior New Jersey pageant is not formally conceptualized as a “beauty” contest (though the pageant winners do seem to always look quite wonderful). The post-60-years-of-age contestants are not necessarily outwardly beautiful in the traditional sense of the concept of beauty. As it says in the program, the qualities the judges are looking for in the senior pageants are “dignity, maturity,” and, of course, the always elusively defined “inner beauty.”

This description boded well for me, as my outer beauty has never been much of a concern for me. Of course, I like to look good. But, there are the indisputable facts that I rarely brush my hair during the course of the day (once in the morning seems sufficient for me); I haven’t worn lipstick or make-up for the last 40 years; I haven’t worn earrings in two decades (quit them when my daughter was an infant and kept tugging on them); I have worn a dress only a handful of times in the last 20 years (prefer leggings, with sandals in the summer/boots in the winter). Yet, something about this endeavor called out to me. Probably it was a desire to share an experience with my now 21-year-old daughter who, unlike me, never leaves the house without make-up. She has a sense of fashion that I couldn’t replicate with all the money in the world, is able to wear shoes that defy gravity, and who I knew would come down from Vermont, where she is in college, to see me do this. This was going to be fun.

We are so very different from one another, this daughter and I. She is so very and naturally beautiful, has great concern for how she looks, and makes effort for it; although I look relatively good for my age, 68, I have little concern for it, and put minimal effort into it. We are so different, and yet, so close. I wanted to do this thing with her, for her, and because of her.

I committed fully to the process. There was great preparation for the event. I had to find a dress; I had to do something with my unruly, largely uncombed hair; and most challenging, I had to find a talent.

I was sent paperwork that defined how I needed to prepare. There are four criteria for the judges: personal interview (30 percent of the score); evening gown (20 percent); inner beauty, also called “Philosophy of Life” (20 percent); talent (30 percent).

I thought selecting a formal gown would be the easiest task to accomplish, so I started with that. There is no swim suit competition, but the elimination of this part of the usual beauty pageants was probably more to my disadvantage, as I might have aced that part of the contest: I have spent my last 10 years, since I developed my tummy, searching for perfect bathing suits, the ones that successfully hide all my aging bodily imperfections. I now have a large collection of these “special-effects-swim-suits.”

I have kept all my mother’s exquisite gowns from weddings and bar mitzvahs, sitting in a trunk since her death 30 years ago. One by one, I pulled them out of their dusty storage, tried them on, took selfies to send to my daughter via email for a yay or nay. None of those worked well enough for my daughter to give a thumbs up. For some of them, she actually stuck her finger down her throat (Skype) — I was a little hurt for my mother’s sake, but then again, the gowns were decades old.

We decided I needed a new gown. I ordered five gowns online. One by one, they arrived, and my daughter and I repeated the selfies process. I found an elegant sequined gown (again, hiding my tummy, that I called my “special-effects-evening gown”) that we both liked. That was the one I kept.

In preparation for the talent part of the competition, I did some homework: I looked at videos of past pageants. It was a difficult decision to make for what talent to present, as I am essentially talentless. I am not without accomplishments, being a well-known psychoanalyst and author (uses of my mind), and a long-distance swimmer and advanced yoga practitioner (uses of my body). But talent, as in singing and dancing, or performing? I haven’t done that kind of thing since I was a strawberry in a dance recital at age six. Watching the videos of past pageants was daunting: some of the women were good, singers and dancers who had real performance charisma. I considered pulling my application.

Yet, soldier on I did. For my “talent,” I tacked together a multimedia performance. It was, in essence, a homage to my mother. She became the organizing principle of my various “talents,” because it was she who encouraged my artistic endeavors (which I showed in a slide show: paintings, drawings and photographs I had made over the years); it was she who listened to my practicing the piano for hours each day (I played a piece I had learned as a teenager); and it was she who proudly announced to anyone listening, even taxi drivers and strangers on the street, when I had authored my first book (I did a short reading from my most recent book).

The day of: Harrah’s in Atlantic City. Our first event was the private interview with the judges. Although this counted heavily in the scoring, there was no way to prepare for this event, as we did not know what questions the judges would ask us.

Five esteemed individuals had volunteered to be the judges. I gussied up for the interview: fussed with my hair, checked my makeup, wore a new dress that made me look sleek and lithe, and actually wore heels for the occasion — the first time I had had heels on in 45 years.

I entered the room without tripping, sat down, got myself poised with legs appropriately crossed in lady-like fashion, and prepared to answer their questions. The first question I was asked, by one of the male judges, was about my writing for The Huffington Post, an activity I had mentioned on my application. As I began my answer, something odd happened: the judge who had asked the question looked down at the floor. As I continued to respond to that question, and the others posed to me, I made sure that I made frequent eye contact with each of the judges. Yet, this one judge never looked up, never took his eyes off the floor, refusing to make eye contact with me for the rest of my interview. His behavior was unwelcoming, disconcerting, even rude.

I walked out of the interview thinking that no matter how good my talent presentation was going to be, no matter how exquisite I looked in my sequined gown, no matter how flawless and poignant my “Philosophy of Life” presentation was — that I was far down on the list of candidates for winning. I walked out of the interview, and texted the 12 friends and family who had come down to see me: “Dead in the water.”

Next: learning and rehearsing our ensemble dance, and the movements on stage. We practiced strutting, learned a pageant walk with arms swinging straight out and hands at 90 degree angle from arms; we belted out our hellos again and again, proudly announcing which municipality we came from: I, from “small but beautiful Bloomingdale.” We learned our dance steps, where to enter and exit the stage. And, finally, we got one practice run-through of our talent presentations.

By the time the pageant actually started, we were all rather frazzled and tired from the efforts of memorization. My main concern was what I would remember, or the alternative: forget. Surely memorization was a skill most of us had not exercised for many decades, and the one I was most worried about. I wondered: was my forever-dreaded anticipatory Alzheimer’s going to finally make its appearance at just the moment of my stepping up to the microphone?

As I stood at the podium, reciting my “Philosophy of Life” statement, I felt proud and happy to be there. I was satisfied with the thought that had gone into my composing words that reflected the very personal meaning of my being there, participating in a contest that was so foreign to my usual self-identity.

These are the words I chose: “I recently saw a documentary of Afghani Women meeting in secret. What were they doing? Painting their fingernails. Covered with burkas from head to foot, this was not about beauty. It was about the bond of womanhood and the experience of femininity. Within their repressive culture, these women carved out a small slice of freedom. I believe in freedom. I believe in the freedoms our country were founded on. And I believe in the freedoms to think and feel and want. These freedoms, no one can take away.”

By the end of the pageant, we contestants had spent many hours together, had gotten to know one another, and, in a sense, even come to “love” each other.Screen Shot 2015-09-03 at 6.06.06 PMI made two BFFs for the day (never to be seen again, in all likelihood). Geraldine is a 78-year-old woman, who like myself, is a pianist and psychologist. We had an immediate attraction to one another because we were the only pianists in the bunch, and shared a profession. Geraldine decided to do this as an activity that would give her something interesting and new to do, since her husband had died.

My other best friend for the day was my next door neighbor in the dressing room, Teri, who took me aside mid-day, and confided that I was not the only Jew there. (Except for Bess Myerson, the 1945 Miss America winner, pageants are not typically a Jewish-thing to do.) Teri’s motivation for entering was about her commitment to a social cause. Her husband had had a severe heart attack while they were on vacation some years earlier; he had immediate heart surgery, and then a transplant that saved his life. They are both advocates for organ donors, and Teri entered the pageant out of hopes of giving herself a public voice for transplant advocacy.

Beverly had been diagnosed with pancreatic cancer. She had taken the trouble to call me a few weeks before the pageant, on my birthday, to wish me a good day. In spite of her illness, she wanted to be there, and put on an amazing but ridiculous costume, and then moved slightly on the floor for her “talent” performance.

Mary’s knee kept locking up. It was difficult for Mary to move, and the group dance was challenging for her. Yet, she persisted, and we collectively made adjustments for her.

Patricia had had a stroke, and couldn’t see for three years. She explained that her recovery was due to “divine intervention.” She said she was in church and, all of a sudden, could see again. She was a thoughtful, serious woman, yet a brilliant comedienne.

Diane, Patty, and a few others had competed several times. It was a process they enjoyed, looked forward to each year. Of course they wanted to win. But, win or lose, they wanted to participate.

Many of the women had real talent. Mary let loose the first two notes of “At Last,” and the audience went wild. They were on their feet cheering her on. Those two notes were powerful and rich, surprisingly commanding. Geri was a flutist, and her playing was sweetly evocative. My BFF, Geraldine, played the piano with enthusiasm and skill.

I didn’t win. I didn’t even place. I found myself feeling oddly disappointed. I hadn’t really expected to win. I’m not sure I even wanted to win. I wanted the tiara; I wanted the sash; I wanted to walk out on the streets with my tiara and sash. But I did not want to carve out time from my busy schedule to make expected appearances at small town festivities, parades, and launching of ships-kind-of-things.

But I did think I deserved a place. Out of 14 contestants, there were four runners-up (altogether, five winners). As I stood on the stage, listening to the winners being announced, I hoped that I would receive some recognition, that I would be rewarded for what I thought had been a good show on my part. I not only look good for my age, I feel fantastic. I have defied my genetic destiny; my mother and sister were both dead of cancer long before they reached the age I am now. I have achieved this feat through diligence, discipline, study, applying principles of health to my life-style. I think I exuded my feel-good/grab-life-by-the-horns attitude on the stage.

Yet, I came to understand that none of these qualities that I feel I embody — my “off-stage” abilities, assets, attributes, intelligence, virtues, accomplishments, even talent — that comprise the full person I am — indeed, the person I have made myself into being — these qualities that I think of as going into the “mark” of a woman — none of them mattered to the judges. These more ephemeral qualities are the ones that had been reflected in my written application, which each of the judges had reviewed. The judges are meant to understand that there are lives lived beyond the performance on the stage. They are meant to take these qualities into consideration in their judging criteria; and I had gone into the pageant believing that the life I have chosen to live would be recognized as worthy of acknowledgement.

Yet, it appears that to be a winner, in New Jersey, only one attribute matters: the ability to sing. People look at me oddly when I sing. In fact, in my talent presentation, I made fun of my inability to sing or dance. But, in the history of this pageant, as far as I can tell, no contestant has ever won who does not sing.

I thought deeply before I decided to send an email to the administrator of the contest, Johanne. I suggested that having five winners in a field of 14 leads to disappointment, if not outright humiliation, to not get any recognition at all. I thought that in the future, they might want to narrow the field of runners-up to make losing less embarrassing. Or, alternatively, give awards for other accomplishments, as in an award for Miss Congeniality (I would have been happy with “Most Well-Read”). Johanne thanked me graciously for my suggestion, and told me that they had concluded that this didn’t work. She said that it was called “tokenism” for non-winners, and was viewed as an insult. I, however, would have experienced it as acknowledgement.

I cc’d both my email and Johanne’s response to all the contestants. My letter created a subsequent firestorm of complaints amongst those who did not place. We, the “losers” in the group, began talking forthrightly about our experiences. We called ourselves the Malcontents, and in our emails to each other, we decided that we were engaging in a form of group therapy. I was the designated official Malcontents Psychologist.

One of the complaints was that the pageant itself was three hours. Yet, we contestants each had approximately 225 seconds in front of the audience to present ourselves as distinct from the pack (3 minutes 45 seconds for the talent; 45 seconds for the Philosophy of Life, 5 seconds for announcing our town). Most of the pageant time was taken up by former winners, the Queens of past years: they were continuously talking, singing and dancing on stage. They were ubiquitous.

Communicating amongst ourselves helped us to put our most private feelings into words. We felt less alone. One of the contestants wrote: “I was beating myself up thinking that I was alone in my disappointment and maybe it was just ME!!!!” Another wrote: “There is no Botox on my face, I don’t need it. I work very very hard to keep healthy, trim; I have an “invisible” illness, fibromyalgia, and I was in a lot of pain throughout the entire event with a smile on my face. And don’t even mention what I have to do to be such a good musician. I practice like an athlete.” A third: “I was told after the pageant that if I had sung instead of lip sync…I would have had a good chance! I do not sing….I dance and have danced and performed my whole life. If I had a heads-up that anyone who does not sing doesn’t have a shot in hell…. I would not have even entertained the idea of this competition. It was a HUGE expense, financially as well as time.”

Ultimately, the lesson I took away from being in the pageant was the same sentiment I expressed in my “Philosophy of Life” statement. For me, the meaning of the experience was about spending hours and hours with my fellow contestants, learning a dance, supporting each other when any of us forgot which way to turn and messed up the whole routine. And the time in the dressing room, side by side: sharing lipsticks; doing each other’s hair; deciding for a neighbor one dangling rhinestone earring over another less dangling. Primping and prepping, and doing it together as a group, non-competitively, just lovingly and supportively — as I said in my “Philosophy of Life”: the “bond of womanhood.” Not with women who are naturally attractive simply because of their youth, nor who still have great thick hair and smooth clear skin, but, rather, with women who are fighting every day in every way against their aging bodies — both in terms of beauty and also just getting around with weak knees and decades long backaches, and even the specter of encroaching death. That’s what moved me the most.

I’m glad I entered the competition. My daughter and I shared a wonderful, exhilarating experience. She got to see, for the first time, how her aging mom looks in an evening gown, makeup, with hair extensions and false eyelashes. I got to see the pride reflected back to me from her eyes, not because she has a mom who looks good for her age, but because she has a mom who had the courage to participate in such an endeavor, and the joie de vivre to actually enjoy it. One of my friends who had come to see the event sent me a tiara, and told me I was her queen. I trounced around the house for a week, wearing the crown every time there was no one around to witness my foolishness.

I had a great time. I will never do it again.

How Increasing Your Brain’s ‘Digit Span’ Can Improve Overall Function


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Even though there is a mountain of research on sequential processing, and its usefulness as a measure of intelligence, for decades no one had thought to bring the research to the next logical level — to actually change peoples’ digit-span level. Finally, researcher and clinician Bob Doman decided to train people to increase their ability to do digit span. Continued

Dr. Jane on Huffington Post

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Fertilisation of Orchids, written by Charles Darwin (pictured) and published on 15 May 1862, explores the evolutionary interactions between insects and the orchids they pollinat Fertilisation of Orchids, written by Charles Continued

How Much Information Can The Brain Hold? Test Your Memory


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The concept of the magic number seven, plus or minus two, has a long, revered place in the history of psychological research. It has been well known since the 19th century when a little observational experiment was done by Scottish philosopher, William Hamilton. Hamilton noted that whenever a handful of marbles were thrown onto the floor, the placement of only about seven of the marbles could be remembered without confusion. G.A. Miller, a Princeton University psychologist, wrote his famous paper, “The Magical Number Seven, Plus or Minus Two,” in 1956. For many years, this was the most cited non-statistical paper in psychology. Miller’s contention was precisely the same as Hamilton’s: most of us can hold in short-term memory approximately seven units of information. Continued

Brain Health: Is the Virtual World Creating a Virtual Brain?

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The other day the television stopped working suddenly. I spent almost an hour trying to figure out how to fix it. Then my 17-year-old daughter walked in, took the remote from my hand, and had the thing working again in about a New York nanosecond. I have known, for years now, because of similar experiences with computers, cell phones and cameras, that my daughter’s brain operates in a wholly different way than my own. When any of these electronic devices stop doing what they’re supposed to be doing, I can spend hours trying to figure out how to reprogram them (if that is even the right word) — all to no avail. It won’t matter how much time I take to attend to the task. I won’t figure it out. And my daughter will. Continued

Brain Development From Birth to Old Age: An Overview

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Comedian Lewis Black does a brilliant riff on the aging brain. The conversation he demonstrates between two adults trying to converse about a film looks something like, at best, a game of charades, or worse, infants trying to communicate wordlessly with each other — (the very etymology of the word “in fans” is “without speech”). One guy makes reference to the movie, trying to remember the name: “You know — the movie with the guy in it — the guy — you know the guy — the guy who knows the other guy, or looks like the other guy — the two guys — you know who I mean — that movie with the guy.” That’s not an exact quote, but close enough for anyone suffering from the affliction of getting older with a modicum of memory loss to get the point. (They tell us it’s part of the normal aging process. But who believes them?) Continued

Benefits of Love and Microbes (and How They’re Related)

I have talked about the importance of  microbes in a past Musings. The importance of microbes in every day life cannot be over-stated. Microbes live in every part of our bodies, in every crevice, and on every surface. There are more bacterial cells on our bodily surfaces — collectively amounting to 100 trillion cells — than there are human cells in the entire body.

We are born 90% human, 10% microbes. As we develop and grow, our microbes develop and grow with us. They grow much faster than we grow.  By the time most of us die, we will have reversed the proportion of human to microbes, and we will have become 90% microbial. At the time of our death, then, it could be said that we are, indeed, more microbial than human.

In 2008, a branch of the National Institutes of Health, launched a five-year, $153 million, federally funded research project called the “Microbiome Project.” It is looking at all the microbes; most are bacteria, but there are also viruses, parasites, protozoa (one-cell organisms with animal-like behavior),  bacteriophages (a virus that replicates within bacteria), and yeast — and what scientists are finding is changing the face of medicine. Take a closer look at these developments:

* Babies get a substance from breast milk that they cannot digest. This substance is oligosaccharides and babies do not have the required enzymes to digest this substance.  The purpose of  oligosaccharides is to deliver materials to the microbes that reside in the baby’s gut!  It is our infants’ first prebiotic!

* Couples who live together share more microbes with each other if they have a dog, compared with couples that do not have a dog. The largest bacteria group that dogs and humans share is Betaproteobacteria.

* Animals who are fed antibiotics gain more weight than those not fed antibiotics.  The research shows that antibiotics alter the bacteria that play an important role in regulating weight.

*Stress during childhood could have long-term effects on the gut microbiome.  When rats and monkeys are separated from their mothers, a type of stress is created that alters the microbiota of the gut.

* Kissing involves exchanging human microbiota. Variety is key to health, and the exchange of each others’ microbes has the advantage of boosting immunity. In addition, there are a wealth of other benefits to kissing. It relieves stress and releases epinephrine into the blood,  resulting in increased pumping of blood, which can reduce LDL cholesterol. Kissing stimulates the production of saliva in the mouth, which helps to fight cavities. And it also stimulates a cascade of “happy” hormones, such as serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin. These “happy” hormones aren’t only important for good feelings; they also help to strengthen relationships. It has been found that those who cannot commit to a love relationship are low in oxytocin.

Just Words

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One of the criticisms of Barack Obama has been that his presidency consists of “just words.” Ted Sorenson, whose death we have mourned, expressed astonishment at the sentiment. “‘Just words’ is how a president manages to operate. ‘Just words’ is how he engages the country,” Sorensen said in a moment of peevedness. Continued

Psychoanalysis: A Treatment of the Soul

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Throughout my 40 years as a psychoanalyst, many of my patients have expressed interest in wanting to enter the territory of spirituality and authentic soul searching. They are surprised when I present the possibility of using their psychoanalytic therapy as a portal with which to explore this interest. When we understand the roots of what has come to be called “the talking cure,” we can see how deeply spiritual the psychoanalytic process is meant to be. Continued

Benefits of Love and Microbes (and How They’re Related)

I have talked about the importance of  microbes in a past Musings. The importance of microbes in every day life cannot be over-stated. Microbes live in every part of our bodies, in every crevice, and on every surface. There are more bacterial cells on our bodily surfaces — collectively amounting to 100 trillion cells — than there are human cells in the entire body.

We are born 90% human, 10% microbes. As we develop and grow, our microbes develop and grow with us. They grow much faster than we grow.  By the time most of us die, we will have reversed the proportion of human to microbes, and we will have become 90% microbial. At the time of our death, then, it could be said that we are, indeed, more microbial than human.

In 2008, a branch of the National Institutes of Health, launched a five-year, $153 million, federally funded research project called the “Microbiome Project.” It is looking at all the microbes; most are bacteria, but there are also viruses, parasites, protozoa (one-cell organisms with animal-like behavior),  bacteriophages (a virus that replicates within bacteria), and yeast — and what scientists are finding is changing the face of medicine. Take a closer look at these developments:

* Babies get a substance from breast milk that they cannot digest. This substance is oligosaccharides and babies do not have the required enzymes to digest this substance.  The purpose of  oligosaccharides is to deliver materials to the microbes that reside in the baby’s gut!  It is our infants’ first prebiotic!

* Couples who live together share more microbes with each other if they have a dog, compared with couples that do not have a dog. The largest bacteria group that dogs and humans share is Betaproteobacteria.

* Animals who are fed antibiotics gain more weight than those not fed antibiotics.  The research shows that antibiotics alter the bacteria that play an important role in regulating weight.

*Stress during childhood could have long-term effects on the gut microbiome.  When rats and monkeys are separated from their mothers, a type of stress is created that alters the microbiota of the gut.

* Kissing involves exchanging human microbiota. Variety is key to health, and the exchange of each others’ microbes has the advantage of boosting immunity. In addition, there are a wealth of other benefits to kissing. It relieves stress and releases epinephrine into the blood,  resulting in increased pumping of blood, which can reduce LDL cholesterol. Kissing stimulates the production of saliva in the mouth, which helps to fight cavities. And it also stimulates a cascade of “happy” hormones, such as serotonin, dopamine, and oxytocin. These “happy” hormones aren’t only important for good feelings; they also help to strengthen relationships. It has been found that those who cannot commit to a love relationship are low in oxytocin.

The Joy (and Benefits) of Skipping

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Doubtless, you remember skipping as a child. Some of the moments of happiness you had as a child were surely when you were skipping. I don’t mean happiness as in content, or satisfied or feeling good or nice. I mean happy as in joyful. If you look around any playground, you will notice that any child who is skipping is also laughing — or at least smiling a big, broad grin. Skipping induces happiness; it did when you were seven, and it will have the same effect on you now that you are an adult. Continued

In Defense of Slow and Tedious: Quick-Fix Therapy or the Kind that Takes “Forever”?

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Since the New York Times published an article by psychotherapist Jonathan Alpert, “In Therapy Forever? Enough Already” (April 21, 2012), there has been lively debate within the psychotherapeutic community about the benefits of short-term, goal-oriented, advice-driven therapy vs. the longer, open-ended, free-associative linguistic wandering brand espoused and practiced by psychoanalysts. The lengthiness of treatment is a question that Freud, the originator of the notion “interminable” analysis, himself asked. He experimented for a time with what we might call today, “speed therapy” (comparable to “speed dating” — first impressions count for all). Ultimately, he wasn’t particularly impressed with the results. But Freud’s goal (in this seemingly “goalless” endeavor) was radically different from the goal of today’s popular short-term — often with adjunctive psychotropic drugs — therapies. Perhaps the best way of describing the difference is that the goal of short-term therapy is to feel “better,” which can translate into feeling “less.” On the other hand, the goal of psychoanalysis is to feel both “deeper” and more “outward” which, at least in the beginning of the process, might translate into feeling “more” and “worse.” Continued

My Rape; My Illegal Abortion; My Almost Dying: Reflections From 1968

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I was set to graduate from college in a few months. March 1968. I awoke to a voice telling me: “Don’t make a sound or I will kill you.” My screaming was instinctive, and I suppose I paid for that. I screamed and screamed, and the more I screamed, the more he hit me. Although there were four people in the apartment at the time, apparently no one heard me. When I tasted blood in my mouth from his brutal fists, the realization dawned on me that this man didn’t care how much he hurt me, and was willing, indeed, to kill me. I felt the saddest I had ever felt in my short life: not that I was going to die, but that I was going to die without being with any of the people who loved me. I acquiesced to the rape, and tolerated the soft words of his affection for my “titties,” as he called them. I had become so passive, he could have performed a lobotomy on me and I wouldn’t have let out a peep. Continued

Why I Decided to Enter a Senior Beauty Pageant at the Age of 68

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In early 2014, I made a most bizarre decision for myself. I committed to participating as a contestant in a pageant: the Miss Senior New Jersey Pageant.

Miss Senior New Jersey is unlike its mother pageant, Miss America, in that there is no financial reward for winning. It does not promise, and then not distribute, most of the money that is claimed to be available (as was revealed by John Oliver’s recent, funny and sad, exposé of the Miss America contest). And unlike its forerunner, Miss Senior New Jersey pageant is not formally conceptualized as a “beauty” contest (though the pageant winners do seem to always look quite wonderful). The post-60-years-of-age contestants are not necessarily outwardly beautiful in the traditional sense of the concept of beauty. As it says in the program, the qualities the judges are looking for in the senior pageants are “dignity, maturity,” and, of course, the always elusively defined “inner beauty.” Continued

Love & Relationships, with Jane G. Goldberg Ph.D.

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Join Jane G. Goldberg, Ph.D. with four of her guests–with both professional and non-professional psychoanalytic backgrounds–to consider one of humanity’s greatest challenges: the death of a mother. Jane Brown, Psychoanalyst; Muna Tseng, Dancer and Choreographer; Michal Ginach, Psychoanalyst and niece of Yehuda Safran, Professor of Architecture at Columbia University participate.

Are Your Vitamins For Real? Pt. 1

This article originally appeared in The Epoch Times

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We have become a population in which health consciousness is now mainstream. Vitamins and nutritional supplements remain the largest health and beauty category among consumer product goods.

But many don’t understand the delicate art of supplementation. We think that if something is “natural” it must be good and won’t do harm, and that if it’s good for us, more must be even better. These are misconceptions. Continued

Paula Gloria & Jane Goldberg Ph.D. Go Farther Down the Rabbit Hole…

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What happens when the owner of a Manhattan Day Spa, author of seven books and psychoanalyst for cancer patients, ventures into a part of the country as opposite to New York City as can be imagined, to learn about cancer cures through radiation hormesis? Dr. Jane Goldberg joins world traveler, Paula Gloria, to create a documentary to accompany Jane’s book Because People are Dying, and visits the revamped healing clinic (complete with radon baths) in remote southeast Colorado.

Skin Brushing: The Easiest Way to Detox and Look Younger

This article originally appeared in The Epoch Times

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Some years back, I heard Bernard Jensen, one of our country’s great nutritionists and author of over 50 books, tell the story of Samson, “the Saxon Giant.”

Samson was a weight lifter and wrestler who was brought to the United States by Florenz Zeigfield in the 1920s as one of the featured acts in the “Zeigfield Follies.”

Besides his strength, Samson was also known for his baby-soft skin, a feature that Samson attributed to his daily regimen of dry skin brushing—a fact that greatly intrigued Jensen. Continued

Since My Brother’s Murder

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My brother was murdered — bludgeoned to death as he lay sleeping in his bed — three years ago this summer. The murder (like most murders) was not a random event. My brother knew his killer. The perpetrator was a young man, Max, who had been kicked out of his family home, and to whom my brother had given shelter.

Max was a Russian adoptee, who, post-adoption — from the age of five — was raised with every advantage that should have (could have) helped him to develop into a stalwart member of society. Yet, this did not happen. Continued

The Relevance of Psychoanalysis, with Jane G. Goldberg Ph.D.

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Jane G. Goldberg Ph.D. creates a panel of peers addressing a topic dear to her heart–the liberation of the soul through analysis. Includes a roll-in of the Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies at 16 10th Street, New York, which has several outreach programs open to the public to learn more about a subject that is often misunderstood from the outside.

The Jews of New Orleans

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(Article originally published by The Algemeiner, March 18, 2011)

There’s an old saying in New Orleans, actually it’s a word — lagniappe. Lagniappe is a French/Cajun/Creole/only in New Orleans word that means a little something extra. It’s that maraschino cherry on top of the Gambino’s Bakery Charlotte Rouss ladyfingers that my grandmother used to always have for us. It’s a good description of how you make Gumbo: you make the roux, then throw in some okra, celery and bell pepper, then a ham hock, and you think you’re almost done, and then suddenly you see hiding behind something in the refrigerator, a big ripe Creole tomato. You had forgotten you had it, you hadn’t planned on cooking with it, but there it has appeared suddenly, and you know that it is that little something extra that’s going to make your gumbo even better than you had planned. Continued

Freud on Phil Donahue (via Dr. Jane Goldberg): Resolving The Repetition Compulsion

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Join a group of Modern Freudian therapists hosted by Jane G. Goldberg:
Sheila Zaretsky: Director of Academy of Applied and Clinical Psychoanalysis (New Jersey),
Pat Bratt: Director of Academy of Applied and Clinical Psychoanalysis (New Jersey),
Ron Leiber: Director of Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies (Manhattan),
June Bernstein: Faculty of Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies (Manhattan),
Faye Newsom: Faculty of Center for Modern Psychoanalytic Studies (Manhattan) and Boston Graduate School of Psychoanalysis (Boston).
Jane Goldberg is a Faculty of CMPS, owner of La Casa Day Spa and author of numerous books.

The Use of Group Analysis in the Resolution of Primitive Regression

Originally published in Modern Psychoanalysis: Vol. 24, No. 2 (1999)

The author expounds on how group analysis is an essential aspect of any comprehensive analysis. Specifically, she addresses how regression is used deliberately in the service of cure and how and why group analysis is an antidote to narcissism. The author draws upon examples of patients as well as her personal experiences.

I was watching a TV show called “The Practice” the other night. It was about a 13-year-old boy who had killed his mother because he was angry at her. The defending attorney was pleading with the judge not to try the boy as an adult because it presented the possibility of putting him away for life. Continued

Aggression and the Female Therapist

As the number of women therapists increases, the study of the effects of the sex of the therapist on treatment becomes meaningful. Patients may choose, and mental health agencies may assign therapists of either gender, yet there are no guidelines for such pairing.

Meltzoff and Hornreich (1970), in reviewing the literature on sex-pairing in psychotherapy, conclude: “At present there is no clear basis for preferential assignment of a patient of either sex to a therapist of either sex. No statement can be made with confidence about the relative benefits of selected sex pairing with given types of patients.” Continued

The Really Real Reality Group Therapy Show

In 2009, Jane G. Goldberg Ph.D. recorded a series of group therapy sessions that came to be titled The Really Real Reality Group Therapy Show, so that viewers could witness first-hand the manifestation of psychic mechanisms as attempts to defend the ego. For instance, in the course of the show, we see the narcissistic defense, as defined by Hyman Spotnitz; we observe the expressions of Freud’s concept of Eros (love) and Thanatos (death and aggression) as group members struggle to find safe, yet authentic, footing with one another, and come to both love and hate each other. Viewers may think the group therapy participants are out of central casting, but they are real people, with real issues, that they have the courage and generosity to share, as they work through their processes with the universe.

You can watch their shared experience and individual journeys right here:

Episodes 1-48 Playlist can be viewed by clicking HERE



Working With the Split Transference

Modern Psychoanalysis, Vol. 3, No. 2, 1978 (P. 217 – 232)

In attempting to resolve the resistance of the patient to freely experience and verbalize all thoughts and feelings, the author recognized that resolution may depend on the patient forming alternative transference alliances. This may be described as splitting the transference.

The technique of allowing for a therapeutic split transference finds its roots in the theoretical concept of splitting. Continued

Dr. Jane G. Goldberg Takes on Howard Stern’s Bowel Habits

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Although I always understood the importance of good bowel habits recently an important viewer has come up with colon troubles that may require surgery so that I am rethinking the importance of health maintenance and even more restoring a very off balance system..even faced with a crisis there might be better therapies that are usually considered not powerful enough for “serious” issues. Do the serious issues start with seemingly unimportant idiosyncrasies, like being uncomfortable going to the bathroom when nature calls?

Love Your Dogs and Cats

I almost lost my beloved Lilly (a 6 lb. poodle) several years back. After throwing up one day, she stopped eating and drinking. I was four vets later, $3000 into vet bills before I found out what I needed to do to save her life. Part of it was my discovery of the healing effect of low-level radiation, and irradiating her water (which was the only water she was willing to drink; this discovery and its importance for human healing is detailed in my book: Because People Are Dying). But just as significantly was my conversion of her to a completely raw food diet. Continued

“Because People Are Dying”

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Has everything we’ve been told about radiation been wrong? And how has this dismal ignorance affected our health choices?
Learn about what really happened at Hiroshima and Nagasaki regarding radiation–cows living to 26-years-old for starters…

Benefits of Love and Microbes (and How They’re Related)

I have talked about the importance of  microbes in a past Musings. The importance of microbes in every day life cannot be over-stated. Microbes live in every part of our bodies, in every crevice, and on every surface. There are more bacterial cells on our bodily surfaces — collectively amounting to 100 trillion cells — than there are human cells in the entire body. Continued

Dr. Goldberg Interviews Dr. Thomas Luckey

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Jane Goldberg interviews Dr. Thomas Luckey by phone for her new book on Radiation Hormesis: Because People Are Dying. If you’ve got cancer, or any other disease; if you aren’t sick, and don’t want to get sick – this book is an absolute must-read. It may well be the most important book on health to come along in a decade.

Because People Are Dying tells the tale of Jay Gutierrez, cracker-jack helicopter mechanic. Twenty years ago, Jay discovered an abandoned mine and began making pendants from the pretty stones he found. To his dismay and disbelief, people wearing the jewelry began reporting to him disappearances of all manner of physical afflictions. Jay finally took their reports seriously, and had the stones assayed. Much to his surprise, he discovered that the stones were emitting low-level radiation. Research detailed in the book–of over 3,000 medical studies–leads to the understanding that, today, we are all radiation-deficient.

The book is compelling, and reads like a medical mystery as the reader meets the various people whose lives Jay has saved–from diseases as serious as stage IV cancers. The book surprises us, citing studies that contradict the “facts” that we all “know.” For instance, 1) Survivors of Nagasaki and Hiroshima have not only not died in droves, but they are living longer than average life-expectancy; 2) Radon in your home doesn’t give you lung cancer; to the contrary it confers a protection against all cancers; 3) Those who live near nuclear power plants live longer than those who don’t.

Jay has developed a unique method of delivery, through the emanation of the stones, of this much-needed element that is essential to life. Goldberg shows us that radiation and life are synonymous. Exposure to low-level radiation cures many if not most diseases, and prevents even more. Jay’s healing stones are cheap and easy to use: a serious populist cure for serious and not-serious diseases.

The Physiology of Psychoanalysis: Is Psychoanalysis a Treatment of the Body?

From Modern Psychoanalysis, Vol. XX, No. 2, 1995 (P. 207 – 212)

A theory is presented that incorporates psychoanalysis as a treatment for disturbances that find manifestation on the level of the body. The actual physiology of the mind/body and body/mind connections are discussed, as well as the biochemical effect of putting all of one’s thoughts and feelings into work.

You can try an interesting little experiment. Ask your friends to point on their bodies to the place where they think their “I” exists. You will see that most will point to the center of their heads. This is an understandable response. Continued

Dr. Goldberg Interviews Ted Rockwell

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Not many people know that one of the leaders working on the Manhattan Project, and later under Admiral Rickover in nuclear and atomic energy, is interested in parapsychology. Join Dr. Jane Goldberg on one of her public access TV shows for Manhattan Neighborhood Network as she gets to know the person behind the degrees and honors at his home in Chevy Chase, near Washington D.C.

Building a Psychological Immune System: Theoretical Considerations in the Psychoanalytic Treatment of Physical Diseases

From: Modern Psychoanalysis, Vol. XVI, No. 1, 1991 (P 105 – 120)

There is an old fable that goes as such:

Once upon a time, there was a great, large animal. The animal was taken to the gate of a city, where six blind men of the highest scientific curiosity were to inspect the animal in order to tell their countrymen both the nature of the animal and how to best care for it.

The first blind man’s hand fell upon the animal’s tusks. “Ah,” he said, “This creature is a thing of bones; they even protrude through his skin.” Later on, years having passed, this man became an orthopedist. Continued

Psychosis of the Body, Cancer of the Mind: The Isomorphic Relation Between Cancer and Schizophrenia

From: Modern Psychoanalysis, Vol. XIV, No. 1, 1989 (P. 21 – 36)

Although there are finer creations of the spirit than perversion and psychosis, in the long run, it is better to be mad than dead.
Joyce McDougall

In observing the ways in which the process of differentiation between self and not-self can be thwarted on the level of the mind, Freud identified the disease of pathological narcissism. Parallel scientific research on the level of the body revealed that the equivalent somatic dysfunction led to the disease of cancer. Continued

Abandonment, Rejection and the Search for Union

From: Modern Psychoanalysis, Vol. 27, No. 2, 2002 (P. 205 – 218)

The author traces the vicissitudes of a thirty-year analysis. The patient came into analysis as a suicidally depressed teenager and has become a confident, content wife and mother of four. Among the most intense conflicts that were worked through were transference issues related to abandonment. The patient was given up for adoption at birth, and during the course of the analysis, developed a longing to be reunited with her biological mother, The author understands this longing as a displacement and avoidance of the pain of the transferential fear of the analyst repeating her history of rejection and abandonment. Through fits and starts, through the patient repeatedly leaving the analysis, and the analyst searching her out to come back, this analysis is testament to the power of self-transformation that is possible when historical repetitions are resolved. Continued

Loving as a Defense Against Life: The Analysis of a Terminally Ill Patient

From: Modern Psychoanalysis Vol. XI: 1 & 2, 1986 (P. 73 – P. 88)

One might say that Mrs. C and I fell in love. From the moment she walked into my office, it seemed as though she and I had been fated to meet, and that knowing each other was going to affect us profoundly. Our positive feelings for one another did not seem to be tempered by the mundane disappointments, fears, frustrations and miscommunications that pervade most relationships. Our relationship seemed free of earthly imperfections. Continued

What is Brainercize?

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Brainercize is an integrated system for understanding and improving brain functioning. Brainercize is based on recent discoveries that have been made about the nature and operations of the brain. Because of these discoveries, a revolution has taken place that has changed entirely the way brain researchers think about the brain as well as the way clinicians work with individuals on cognitive, emotional, and intellectual levels–both the young and the old, and the fully functioning and the brain challenged. We Continued

Brainercize: Online

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Brainercize, with its online (Brainercize Online) and live (Brainercize Live) versions, offers users an array of learning and entertaining methods with which they may train, tune, challenge, stimulate and condition their brains, minds and bodies.

Brainercize Online, initially developed to support the Brainercize Live programs, serves an array of functions.  Brainercize Online Continued

Brainercize: Live

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The system of exercises we have developed for adults in the Brainercize series are organized around the following functions of the brain: memory (Rememberercize) , imagination (Imagercize), the five senses (Sensercize), emotions (Limbercize), and movement (Movercize). Because the brain for young children is structurally different than for adults, and thus their learning needs are different, there is an additional category for them: imitation (Mirrorcize). Classes for both adults and children are based on these categories of brain stimulation. Adult classes are one hour. Children’s classes are 45 minutes. Continued

The Science

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Discoveries in the last 10 years have given us new information on the emerging brain of newborns, the impulsive brain of adolescents, the efficient brain of the adult, and the slowed-down brain of seniors–to reach better functionality.

Research into the brain is one of the fastest growing fields of study in contemporary science. What we know about the brain today is vastly different than what we thought we knew just 10 years ago. And 10 years from now, Continued

Brainy Facts and Quirks

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The weight of your brain is about 3 pounds and is made up of 75% water. At birth, the brain is almost the same size as an adult brain and it already contains most of the brain cells that it will have for a whole lifetime of use. It is also the fattest organ in the body.

No pain, no gain.  Except, that is, when it comes to the brain. There are no pain receptors in your brain, so your brain can feel no pain. Your brain uses 20 percent of the total oxygen in your body. Continued

What is a Smart Brain?

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A smart brain is an adaptable brain; it processes and accommodates new information on a continuous basis. The brain evolved through our evolutionary development as an information processor, bringing the “outside inside” so that the whole organism is privy to environmental stimuli. Primitive brains react only reflexively. As we move up the evolutionary ladder, the higher vertebrate Continued

The Wowsome Brain

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While Steve Jobs may be dead, the legacy of his brain–his brilliance and his prescience–lives on. Steve died as he lived. He spent the last several months at Apple, still embarking on new projects, still holding a vision of a future that he hoped he would help to shape. His children, his wife and his sister all surrounded him as he lay in bed on his final day as they talked and joked among themselves. Continued

How to Have Better Hair and a Healthier Body With a Little-Known Source of Silica

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Recently someone in my community asked how to get rid of pesky critters. A neighbor who own a garden center said that they use Diatomaceous Earth. Well, that seemed to me to be a golden opportunity to reveal my little secret to the world: that I have been eating Diatomaceous Earth for about a year now. Continued

The Cheapest, Fastest, Easiest Way to Detoxify the Whole Body, Look Younger, Be Healthier

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Some years back I heard Bernard Jensen, one of our country’s great nutritionists and author of over 50 books, tell the story of Samson, “the Saxon Giant.” Samson was a weight lifter and wrestler who was brought to the United States by Florenz Zeigfield in the 1920’s as one of the featured acts in the Zeigfield Follies. Besides his strength, Samson was also known for his baby-soft skin, a feature that Samson attributed to his daily regimen of dry skin-brushing, and a fact that greatly intrigued Jensen. Continued

Keeping Your Colon Clean

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It is unfortunate that American doctors have contended for decades that the number of bowel movements an individual has is unrelated to health. They have convinced most of us that they are correct. Most people think that they are not constipated if they are having one bowel movement a day. Yet, we eat three meals a day. Where are the other two meals going if they’re not being eliminated through the colon? The answer actually is somewhat frightening. The rest of the food that is not absorbed by the body as nutrients stays around the body in unlikely places–against the colon walls, in tissues and organs, in arteries–any place at all in the body can serve as a receptacle for uneliminated waste. Continued

The Dose is the Poison

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The principle of hormesis has been understood for centuries: large and small doses evoke opposite effects. As far back as the 1400s, physician Paracelsus understood that dose is the difference between cure and danger: “The dose makes the poison.” In the 1880s Rudolf Arndt and Hugo Schultz demonstrated that substances vary in action depending on whether the concentration is high, medium, or low; high concentrations kill, medium concentrations suppress or inhibit, and low or minute concentrations stimulate. The hormesis principle operates on both the level of the body, the mind, indeed, within the whole universe. Continued

Stress: Good or Bad? In Your Control or Out of Your Control?

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As a psychoanalyst who has specialized in working with cancer patients, I hear the word “stress” frequently. When a new cancer patient comes into my office, I will generally ask the person why they think they have cancer. Some patients are puzzled by the question, and say that they don’t know. But a fair number of them will speculate, and many of them will use the word “stress” to describe emotional situations that they had felt themselves to be in some time before the cancer diagnosis. Continued

Mature Brain or Alzheimer’s Brain – Which Do You Have?

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If you’re over 50, chances are you’ve begun to notice some memory loss. Even in perfectly healthy adults with exceedingly active brains, the hippocampus–a part of the brain important to the formation of memories–begins to atrophy around the age of 55. As this happens, no doubt you begin to wonder, with anxiety and fear, whether the memory loss is part of the natural aging process, or whether you are proceeding inexorably toward getting the dreaded disease of Alzheimer’s. Continued

Beauty, Brains and Brawn (The Fastest Way to Get Them All and Live Longer Too)

How far you can reach beyond your toes from a sitting position, back against the wall, legs straight out in front of you? It may sound like an unimportant question, but it may actually be an important predictor of your longevity.

There are several accurate predictors of longevity that I have written about in prior Musings, including the length of our telomeres and our lung capacity. But another one that I have not yet written about is our flexibility. The health Continued

The Making of a Murderer Pt. 10: Meeting Louise

I never know what is going to happen when I go to sleep. Since David’s death, my dream life has become as vivid as my waking life. They are bizarre, imaginative dreams. Some redeeming; some disturbing. The last dream I had was about Max. Doctors had discovered that there was something wrong with him and that an operation would correct the problem. After the surgery, presumably, he wouldn’t continue to be violent. Continued